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Title: Ah. Spending some time at the hospital.
Post by: Kit Cloudkicker on July 12, 2009, 08:46:14 AM: Hi guys,

For those who don't know me well I'll start this off by explaining that my family has been struggling with my mother's illness (which is some sort of unknown neurological disorder) for the past eight years. This has left her mostly blind, unable to process spoken language, unable to stand or walk, with some strange brain damage, and on and off of life support for the past several years. It's been hard, and the prognosis isn't good, however, life is good at giving you a good slap in the face every few weeks, of course, so on top of the day to day living with these issues...

I received a phone call yesterday that my dad was in the hospital. They found that he has a bone disease, tumors on his liver, and diverticulitis. I was unable to speak to the doctor when I got there, but the prognosis did not sound particularly good. Needless to say, I'm going to be spending a good part of my time at the hospital from here on out with my father. We're supposed to meet with the surgeon again today to discuss treatments and prognosis.

This is hard to deal with, and I'm having to play adult and I don't like it. Yesterday we talked about his living will, and what options he's considering (or as I found out not considering, for treatment.) I'm only 23, and my parents are only in their 50's, and we have NO family in this part of the country, so this is really rough.

I'll post an updates if you guys would like, when I have time. I'm also sending e-mail updates to people here, so if you'd like me to include you in that please pm me your e-mail address.

Positive thoughts are appreciated, feel free to call if you'd like (If you don't have my number, Broken or Alic can give it to you.) Sorry this turned so venty.

-Jess
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Post by: Nateosaurus on July 12, 2009, 10:30:52 AM: I'm really sorry you have to deal with that, I can't imagine what you're going through.

Big hugs from me though!!
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Post by: Ash on July 12, 2009, 10:56:41 AM: This is awful to hear. Try and keep your spirits up. You know my gmail ID, updates would be appreciated..hang in there, Jess, we'll be praying for your family.
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Post by: Horsefan1023 (Seal) on July 12, 2009, 11:31:19 AM: Oh my god, that sounds awful...

I'm really sorry Jess. We will be praying for your family. You shouldn't have to be going through this.

We are all rooting for you. Like Ash said, hang in there. I really hope they will be ok.
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Post by: Faerie Larka on July 12, 2009, 11:38:02 AM: *hugs*

I'm so sorry. I'd also like updates. I think you have my email, but if not, I can send it to you again.

You and your parents will be in my thoughts. I sincerely hope fore the best.
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Post by: Gaz on July 12, 2009, 12:30:21 PM: Oh no! I'm very sorry to hear that. Your family will be in my prayers.

You have my IM if you want to talk, and my skype of course. My e-mail is the same as my AIM just add @aol.com.

Good luck.
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Post by: Coal Kropotkin on July 12, 2009, 12:32:08 PM: Sorry I haven't posted in here. Been talking to Jess on the phone.

I'm sorry, Jess, I know it doesn't mean much to you, but I will be praying for you and yours. Much love. And yes, if anyone needs her number, I have it.

And updates are very much appreciated!
I know there isn't much I could do all the way from Virginia, but if there ANYTHING I can do, please let me know, and I'll try my best! We all love you. Please be safe and warm and well there.

I can't say I know what you're going through, but I can say that I know what it's like to wait in hospitals and not know the outcome, it's a horrible thing to have to do. And if I can help in any way, I'm here for you. Always.

*Hugs*

~Cody
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Post by: Myitt on July 12, 2009, 01:49:57 PM: Hey Jess,

You know Dave and I are always here for you...hang in there, man. Call us anytime.

Hugs...

T&D

(pic for life..)
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Post by: adamjared on July 12, 2009, 02:12:53 PM: Hey Jess, i prayed for your father in Church today, and he will be in my prayers always.

Good luck with everything! And call me on a regular basis! i'll answer if i'm not working!
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Post by: Cloak on July 12, 2009, 02:46:08 PM: Jess . . . I don't what I can say . . . I just hope everything will turn out alright for you. . . .
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Post by: Kelly on July 12, 2009, 05:50:33 PM: :( you're so nice, so I assume your family would all be nice people as well..it's not fair that you've had so much bad luck.

I don't know what to say because I can't imagine how you'd be feeling right now...I hope things start looking up for you and your family.
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Post by: Estelore on July 12, 2009, 06:21:36 PM: *a widdle hug for Jess*
May things much improve for you, dear.
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Post by: Kit Cloudkicker on July 12, 2009, 07:46:10 PM: Thanks guys. I'm writing an e-mail to the rest of my family right now. When I finish it I'll post some parts of it here for you guys.
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Post by: Phoenix004 on July 12, 2009, 08:04:09 PM: I'm so sorry Jess, I can't begin to imagine what that must be like for you. Best of luck to you and your family!
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Post by: Kit Cloudkicker on July 13, 2009, 03:20:06 PM: Thanks for the well wishing. The gist is he has colon problems and will need to have surgery to correct them. He also have lesions on his liver that they believe are carcinoma. He'll have to go through chemotherapy to treat it, but they can't start until he's free of infection and the colon has begun to heal. So that will be 4-6 weeks. If he gets to the point of being able to have the chemo, there's a 60-70% success rate.

Surgery is scheduled for Wednesday.
Title: Re: Ah. Spending some time at the hospital.
Post by: Tyler on July 14, 2009, 06:36:26 PM: Quote from: Kit Cloudkicker on July 12, 2009, 08:46:14 AM
Hi guys,

For those who don't know me well I'll start this off by explaining that my family has been struggling with my mother's illness (which is some sort of unknown neurological disorder) for the past eight years. This has left her mostly blind, unable to process spoken language, unable to stand or walk, with some strange brain damage, and on and off of life support for the past several years. It's been hard, and the prognosis isn't good, however, life is good at giving you a good slap in the face every few weeks, of course, so on top of the day to day living with these issues...

I received a phone call yesterday that my dad was in the hospital. They found that he has a bone disease, tumors on his liver, and diverticulitis. I was unable to speak to the doctor when I got there, but the prognosis did not sound particularly good. Needless to say, I'm going to be spending a good part of my time at the hospital from here on out with my father. We're supposed to meet with the surgeon again today to discuss treatments and prognosis.

This is hard to deal with, and I'm having to play adult and I don't like it. Yesterday we talked about his living will, and what options he's considering (or as I found out not considering, for treatment.) I'm only 23, and my parents are only in their 50's, and we have NO family in this part of the country, so this is really rough.

I'll post an updates if you guys would like, when I have time. I'm also sending e-mail updates to people here, so if you'd like me to include you in that please pm me your e-mail address.

Positive thoughts are appreciated, feel free to call if you'd like (If you don't have my number, Broken or Alic can give it to you.) Sorry this turned so venty.

-Jess

My mom's real sick too, with kemo en all that, so I Kind Of get where you're coming from. :-\

Having sick family sucks, and i wish you and your parents all the luck in the world. :(
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Post by: HiImshort on July 26, 2009, 05:10:29 PM: You have my condolences Jess. I don't know what your going through right now, emotionally. I hope your father gets better soon. I'll keep all of you in my prayers.

*Bear hug from Lerch.*
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Post by: Dameg on September 09, 2009, 12:43:29 PM: I'm also very sorry to hear that...
Be strong, and I hope your father will be better after the surgery...
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Post by: Darth Revan on September 09, 2009, 03:52:55 PM: Wow, I had no idea. So sorry to hear.

It's never easy to continue with daily life when your parents' lives hang in the balance. It's inspiring to see how well you're doing in spite of these trials. I know my sister would be a wreck if my 'rents were in the hospital. This is a testament to your true strength.

Give your parents my best, and keep your head up.
Title: Re: Ah. Spending some time at the hospital.
Post by: Kit Cloudkicker on September 09, 2009, 10:08:05 PM: Ah. Not sure when I last updated this, forgot I had even posted it.

His stomach surgery went well, he went through it and came out fine. They did find that he has colon cancer, and cancer of the liver, and they're both un-treatable. They think that if he does a heavy chemo regimen he could have up to 4 years, but I doubt it will be that long as he's unwilling to give up the habits that have landed him there in the first place. *shrug* I'm kind of in that "acceptance" place, right now.

So, he's in chemo, and ok for now. We'll see what the next few months bring.

Thanks for the condolences and positive thoughts.
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Post by: goom on September 09, 2009, 11:57:59 PM: wow, i missed this thread.. :(

i'm so sorry to hear that, jess. i'll be praying.
Title: Re: Ah. Spending some time at the hospital.
Post by: Kit Cloudkicker on September 10, 2009, 06:36:21 AM: Thanks. I'm really ok guys. I tend to be a....IDK. Not so much an avoider of big things like this, but a focus on now, and today kind of person. So, I'm really ok, and what happens will happen, there's nothing to do about it now. :)

If anything changes drastically, I'll let you all know, but otherwise, I'm ok with never talking about it again with anyone? :P
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Post by: Darth Revan on September 10, 2009, 12:16:00 PM: :thumbsup: I'm the same way, consider the topic dropped. ;D
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Post by: HiImshort on September 10, 2009, 01:19:59 PM: OK. Hi, and bye
Title: Re: Ah. Spending some time at the hospital.
Post by: Kit Cloudkicker on September 16, 2011, 08:30:38 PM: Hi Guys...just a bit of an update, bc I know I've been pretty distant and not around much lately. After two years of battling cancer, my dad passed away yesterday. I'm really pretty ok, got to see him two weeks ago. It's sad, but he's not suffering anymore.
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Post by: DinosaurNothlit on September 16, 2011, 08:37:31 PM: I'm really sorry to hear that, Jess. I can't really say that I know what you're going through, but if you need anybody to talk to, I'm here. :hug:
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Post by: Phoenix004 on September 17, 2011, 06:38:44 AM: *hugs* Really sorry Jess...
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Post by: Alex Oiknine on October 08, 2011, 08:16:16 PM: Quote from: Kit Cloudkicker on September 16, 2011, 08:30:38 PM
Hi Guys...just a bit of an update, bc I know I've been pretty distant and not around much lately. After two years of battling cancer, my dad passed away yesterday. I'm really pretty ok, got to see him two weeks ago. It's sad, but he's not suffering anymore.

I'm sorry. I hope you've been recovering okay.